I posted on my blog before church today but must not have done something right because it isn't there. It's okay because Scott said it sounded like a Sunday School lesson.....so, I will attempt to write some more thoughts. I have just had a wonderful time with family and grandchildren and I took two days off of work and just played and it was fun. I don't care what anyone says, I have the world's cutest, smartest, nicest grandkids. I love them to pieces!
Last night I was whining to Scott that I don't have any friends and I don't feel like I fit into our ward anymore. He began questioning me as follows: "So have you changed or have the people in the ward?" That caused me to think about the situation and I realized that it's my attitiude that is the problem. No one has alienated me but me. I went to church today with a different attitude and you know everyone seemed so much more friendly and talked to me and asked about my kids and grandkids. I felt like a part of the ward in every way. During Relief Society I thought about it and the thought occurred to me that if I felt that way......that others feel that way at times too. The trick is to look around at our meetings, etc. and find the person who is feeling alienated and help them to feel a part of the circle.
Have you ever felt like an outcast and like you don't fit in? Have you ever helped someone else feel a part of the group and seen them change their attitude?
2 comments:
I've felt that way a few times in my life and your right, the remedy is attitude and the remedy is reaching out to others. For a period of time last fall I was feeling like nobody in our ward wanted to be friends with us because we now had two kids and our attention was REALLY divided when hanging out with friends. But then someone in my ward whom I thought would never care about being friends with us approached me at a party and said, "Tyler and I think you and Jed are so funny and we want to go to a Jazz game with you guys." This was an answer to my prayers. Ever since then, I've tried to reach out to those who might think I would never care about being their friend. And I'm a lot happier.
I think we're all like that and it actually surprised me to hear you say that and I'm glad to see that I'm not alone. I also appreciated what Nancy said. But I know when I feel friendless (even though I'm not), all it takes is to invite others over to play games and you have friends for life!
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